Talk About It
Death is a part of life. Everyone experiences the death of a loved one.
“We are social beings, physical beings, and spiritual beings,” says Rev. Clay Evans. “When you lose someone you are attached to, it is normal, it is natural, for you to grieve.”
If grief is natural and is part of everyone’s life, why is there a feeling of discomfort when someone mentions the death of a loved one? Why the embarrassment when tears come during an ordinary conversation?
People in grief may avoid their friends and even their church to prevent these awkward moments. This is not how it should be. Someone needs to move beyond the discomfort. Be the first one to squelch the prevailing attitude of embarrassment and unease, and start talking about grief.
“Bear one another’s burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2 NASB).
Lord Jesus, grieving is as natural and as common as loving. I want to help make it as acceptable, too. May my healing journey spark healing in those around me. Amen.
This was my daily griefshare email this morning and it really struck home with me. I do feel like people are afraid to mention Mike to me probably because they don’t want to make me sad. But I am sad. Mike is on my mind constantly, he is in my every thought, he is everywhere I look, he is in everything I do, he is in everywhere I go, he is in my home, he is in my children, he is in my grandchildren, he is in our friends. HE IS EVERYWHERE! He was a major part of my life for more than 38 years. He will never go away. And I don’t want to forget Mike and I don’t want others to forget him either.
So just know that it is okay. It you have a good memory of him, share it with me. It may make be tear up but that’s okay. I do it all the time anyway so wouldn’t it be better to be crying because of a good memory than just because I am sad. I have been told and I do believe that one day I will be able to think of Mike and instead of being sad, be HAPPY. I look forward to that day! God bless!
And by the way, one of the last things that Mike told us as a family was that he wanted us to be Happy, Happy, Happy! So just know, that although we have lots of tears, we are trying to be Happy!